A marriage can only survive on the alter of sincerity but, sadly
you can't get the truth from cheap people. It has been
observed that some ladies are liars and in some instance
greedy to a fault. If you are not true to yourself then it would
be difficult for you to be true to the man who want to marry
you.
This is the dilemma many ladies find themselves today. Our
men always have their eyes on many ladies and in Africa it is
not a crime to have more than one woman. For your man to
discipline himself and be ready to stay with you sincerely, you
need to feed him with truth and confidence, always.
Below are some of the things I see affecting our young ladies:
Our ladies end up single or chased out by their husband due
to too much media exposure -
It is disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on her mobile
phone from morning to night, only to raise it up and focus on
television to watch fake celebrity entertainment. Tell me, what
else will dominate the mindset of such ladies aside how to
live the fake lifestyles they see on social media and TV?
Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores -
Because they had been totally brainwashed by movies
showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and
due to excessive exposure to American media that promotes
gender-equality in a destructive way, our ladies are loosing
their place in their husband's heart. African family setting is
unique and that is why previous African marriages last longer
and envious to the whites.
With this attitude, how do you expect an African man to
desire to marry you who claim to be a modern lady when he
knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than
helper for himself?
You Don’t Bring Value Into The Life Of The Man You Marry or
Are Dating -
Your best friend married without contributing anything to the
man that married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that
way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can
be a value and also add value to his life to convince him that
you are worth committing to.
Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material
gifts, nope... be a good wife, respectful, stay away from your
mother or friends evil counsels, and above all be his best
friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral,
mental and spiritual support.
Your Mother and Friends Run Your Life -
How do you expect your husband or the man you are dating
to trust you when you still allow your mum and clique of
friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your
love and which is not?
When will you wake up and face the fact that some of your so
called best friends may not want you to marry the best man
and that your own mother may just be destroying your life for
her selfish reason?
Lack of Manners, Character, Wisdom and Good Home
Upbringing -
Your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’ looks will win you men; both the
good and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and
manner are the things that will determine whether a man
would marry you and, most importantly, keep you in his
house as a cherished wife.
Ladies, to achieve this, do away with being possessive,
challenging your man, manipulating him for selfish purpose. A
decent man will love you, once you prove yourself worthy as a
responsible lady.
Do not allow yourself to become a victim while trying to be
too smart. Be humble, reap a good reward!
Written by Mrs Daramola
