QUESTION
How can a husband behave with his wife
in the daytime of Ramadan? I.e. can he enjoy her or kiss her in strong
tendency but of course without having sex "Jema'a" with her especially
we are new spouses for two months only. In other words, what are the
limits and restrictions of such a relationship?
ANSWER
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the
Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad SAW and
upon all his Family and Companions.
Initially, you should avoid your wife in Ramadan as you avoid eating and
drinking.
Beware of anything that could arouse sexual desires during
Ramadan daytime including touching your wife, kissing her, …etc. This
will help you avoid indulging in a forbidden act that results in much
embarrassment and hardship.
In this respect, you should know that if you ejaculate as a result of
your kissing your wife, then your fasting is nullified and you will have
to fast a day to make up for the day in which you ejaculated. Some
scholars even think that pre-seminal discharges (Madhi) cause the
nullity of the fasting.
On the other hand, there is no objection to your sitting with your wife,
talking with her, teaching her, …etc. as long as you do not indulge in
sexual intercourse or its prerequisites (kissing, …..).
Allah knows best.
QUESTION
I
once had a wet dream just before sehri... it was not possible for me to
go and perform ghusl rather.. i felt very shameful to go to perform
ghusl... since my parents wud cum to know... so i had my sehri without
performing ghusl and tha't morning unfortunately i even didn't pray fajr
prayers... but later... i performed ghusl and i parayed by fajr
prayers... but i wud like to know whether my fast is valid... 'cuz i
think i went wrong here becuz i had my sehri in a sexually impure
form.... Is my fast valid?
ANSWER
Praise be to Allaah.
The fast of one who has intercourse with his
wife at night and wakes up in the morning in a state of junub is still
valid, as is the fast of one who becomes junub in his sleep, whether at
night or during the day. There is nothing wrong with delaying ghusl until
just before dawn. Rather fasting is invalidated by having intercourse during
the day in Ramadaan, from just before dawn until after sunset.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/327
But with regard to your delaying the prayer until the sun had risen, this was wrong of you to do that. What is obligatory is to perform the prayers on time. Feeling too embarrassed to do ghusl is no excuse for delaying the prayer. You have to repent from that and pray for forgiveness. May Allaah help us and you to do all that is good.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 10/327
But with regard to your delaying the prayer until the sun had risen, this was wrong of you to do that. What is obligatory is to perform the prayers on time. Feeling too embarrassed to do ghusl is no excuse for delaying the prayer. You have to repent from that and pray for forgiveness. May Allaah help us and you to do all that is good.
1. A Month of Restraint
Muslims consider the 9th month of their calendar, known as Ramadan, to be more than just a time of fasting – it’s a month of restraint for the whole body. They do not listen to those who swear or look at obscene or unlawful things. Overall, they work to avoid smoking, sex, food, evil thoughts and acts, and more. At the end of Ramadan, Muslims usually give to charity, a practice called Zakah al-Fitr. This is in connection to the usual practice of giving to charity, known as Zakat, which is one of five pillars of Islam.
2. Fast from Dawn to Dusk
The daily schedule for a Muslim participating in Ramadan can be hard on the body. They will wake early (before sunrise) to eat. As soon as the sun comes up, they must refrain from both food and drink (including water) until the sun sets, and if Ramadan happens to fall during the summer, this makes for a long day. After sunset, the individual may eat and drink anything but alcohol because Muslims are always forbidden to drink alcohol.
3. Nightly Feast
Once the sun goes down Ramadan observers break the fast in a group setting. The fast is broken by a large feast prepared throughout the day. At times going from famine to feast can be difficult since the body goes from one extreme to another.
4. The Ritual Eating of a Date
Every evening of Ramadan the fast is broken at dusk by eating a date, although only some Muslims do this and it is not required. This practice comes from the belief that the prophet Muhammad ate dates when breaking the fast centuries ago.
5. Children
Children in Muslim families will not join their parents and other adults in the full Ramadan fast. Instead, they may fast for only one day a week or for a few hours at a time. Once a boy or girl reaches puberty they will start to practice the fast like adults. On the final day of Ramadan, known as Eid al-Fitri, children are given money and sweets to celebrate.