What to do when you love sex with your man, but just don't climax? Ladies, whatever you do, don't fake it! They're short and oh so sweet. In the new book, The Science of Orgasm, experts are sharing some of the most satisfying secrets of the female variety.
Faking is bad for both of you
All you achieve by doing this is delaying and denying the chance to change things for the better. You throw your partner off the correct path to your pleasure by giving him incorrect feedback about what works and what doesn't!Tell your partner what you like
The inability to reach orgasm during intercourse or sex play with a partner can be caused by many things. If you can reach orgasm reliably on your own through self pleasure, your sexual response is clearly in fine order which means the issue is about educating your partner on the right kind of stimulation works for you, including specific information for him. After all its the attention to detail that will get you there or not! He needs to to know how to touch you, how soft or hard, fast or slow, and for how long. Often guys can get it right, but then become unsure if they are doing the right thing, so they switch tempo or pressure, or move away from that area when if they had just continued they would have gotten there! It is really vital that you provide your partner with both guidance and feedback.
Show him what to do
The best way to let your partner know what works is by guiding him yourself with your own hand.
If you've been faking, or haven't let on that your sex experiences with him fall short of being incredible and climactic, then work it in to some sex play that you initiate. Make your next sex session one in which you dominate, so the act of leading his hand on you is part of your general sexual initiation. If you'd rather not guide his hand or mouth, then tell him what to do. Make talking part of the erotic experience you share.
If you've been faking, or haven't let on that your sex experiences with him fall short of being incredible and climactic, then work it in to some sex play that you initiate. Make your next sex session one in which you dominate, so the act of leading his hand on you is part of your general sexual initiation. If you'd rather not guide his hand or mouth, then tell him what to do. Make talking part of the erotic experience you share.
Be open about what you want
Being open together leads to more orgasms together What's clear is that your relationship can't be a satisfying one if you are sneaking off to DIY because you remain unsatisfied with your lover. Being more open about your desires and needs in the bedroom will only enhance your passion together and increase your pleasure so that you are both fulfilled, sexually and emotionally. And that's a more satisfying and hotter relationship any (and every!) time.The rules of reaching orgasm
Be open with your partner about your desires, needs and preferred stimulation
If you aren't satisfied, don't fake or stay silent: take responsibility and action!
Be positive about change, and showing your partner what you like and need
You share sex together, so you share improving sex together too! If you never orgasm no matter what, the best step you can take is to see a sex therapist who can help you. You can search online, and some even offer Skype sessions for those who can't find one locally.
Nobody Said It would be easy
Most women need about 20 minutes of clitoral or G-spot stimulation to hit the jackpot. But an estimated 24 to 37 percent of women can't climax (and smoking, drinking, emotional disorders, medications, and menopause can make things worse).
Little helpersThere's hope for the orgasmically challenged. Cognitive behavioral therapy, testosterone treatments, the herb ginkgo biloba, and the nutritional supplement ArginMax (which includes Korean ginseng, ginkgo biloba, vitamins, minerals, and an amino acid) have been shown to improve sexual satisfaction.
Pleasure for procreationSome researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases the chance of conception. The theory: Oxytocin, a hormone released in peak levels during orgasm, causes uterine contractions that coax sperm toward the egg.
As if we needed another reasonBesides its obvious perks, masturbating is good for your health. Studies show that orgasm can reduce sensitivity to pain, relieve menstrual cramps, and alleviate stress—possibly due to a surge in oxytocin and dopamine.
Funny, we're suddenly feeling...a bit...hystericalFrom ancient Greece to Freud's time, doctors stimulated orgasms in women via "medical massage" to treat the catchall female ailment known as hysteria. In the late 1800s, the vibrator was designed for the same purpose.
Nobody Said It would be easy
Most women need about 20 minutes of clitoral or G-spot stimulation to hit the jackpot. But an estimated 24 to 37 percent of women can't climax (and smoking, drinking, emotional disorders, medications, and menopause can make things worse).
Little helpersThere's hope for the orgasmically challenged. Cognitive behavioral therapy, testosterone treatments, the herb ginkgo biloba, and the nutritional supplement ArginMax (which includes Korean ginseng, ginkgo biloba, vitamins, minerals, and an amino acid) have been shown to improve sexual satisfaction.
Pleasure for procreationSome researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases the chance of conception. The theory: Oxytocin, a hormone released in peak levels during orgasm, causes uterine contractions that coax sperm toward the egg.
As if we needed another reasonBesides its obvious perks, masturbating is good for your health. Studies show that orgasm can reduce sensitivity to pain, relieve menstrual cramps, and alleviate stress—possibly due to a surge in oxytocin and dopamine.
Funny, we're suddenly feeling...a bit...hystericalFrom ancient Greece to Freud's time, doctors stimulated orgasms in women via "medical massage" to treat the catchall female ailment known as hysteria. In the late 1800s, the vibrator was designed for the same purpose.