What Is Success?
Success is about getting all that you wanted to have. It's
finding that you have achieved your goals or fulfilled your
plans and it's waking up in the morning feeling victorious
rather than feeling defeated.
The feelings success brings will make you walk proudly in
the streets with your head up high while being happy and
satisfied.
How to Be Successful in Life
Contrary to common beliefs , there are no successful or
unsuccessful people but instead there are people who have
the potential to succeed and who do things that helps
them realize this potential and there are people with the
same potential who don’t do those things.
The only thing you need to do to succeed is to do exactly
what successful people did. When you go through all of the
information below you will acquire the mentality of a
successful person and this will help you reach success.
What Makes Me Unsuccessful?
If you really want to be successful then you should have a
solid understanding of certain concepts that can limit your
potential and that can make you unsuccessful.
Successful people avoid these harmful concepts and so
should you:
False Beliefs: False beliefs are incorrect ideas you hold
about something or about yourself. An example of a false
belief could be “I can never find a job in such a country” .
False beliefs act as limiters to your true potential and so
to your success. Getting rid of false beliefs and knowing
more about them is the most important task that you
should do if you are serious about success. False beliefs
can not only limit your success potential but they can
even ruin your life. Some people stay broken for years
after a breakup just because they have some false beliefs
about love that they acquired from the media. In my book
How to get over anyone in few days i explained how
getting rid of false beliefs such as "the one" and "the soul
mate" can help you recover in few days. This happens
because the mind refuses to recover if it believed that it
will never find a replacement for the person you broke up
with. (Check out this article for more information on false
beliefs, how they were acquired and how to get rid of
them).
External Locus of Control : This is the way of thinking that
makes a person assume that everything that happens to
him is the result of external factors. For example: saying
that an exam was too hard when you don't do well or
claiming that high unemployment rate is the reason you
can't find a job are examples of external locus of control.
The flip side to that way of thinking is Internal Locus of
Control which is the way of thinking that makes you
believe that you are in charge and in control of everything
that happens to you. None of the successful people have
an external locus of control so if you are serious about
success you should learn how to change your way of
thinking from being based on external locus of control to
being based on internal locus of control. (read how you
can do it in this article).
Lack of Persistence: What is good about having many
qualities and skills if you lost hope in succeeding after
failing once or twice? The only people who succeed in life
are the persistent ones. Those who continue working right
to the end until they get what they want even if everything
was against them and even if they failed many times. If
you want to be successful then read the guide to
persistence to learn how to stand up again even if you
failed hundreds of times.
Lack of Flexibility: Flexibility is the ability to adapt to
external conditions. It's the ability to try something else or
another method when your current method fails. The more
flexible you are, the more you will adapt to changes and
the higher your chances of success will be. Read this
guide to learn how to be flexible and how to change your
methods when they don't work.
Lack of Planning: If you don’t have goals or plans then
you are going to be a part of other people's plans. If you
don’t plan to be the team leader at your work then
someone else in your team will do so and if you don't plan
to get that high paying job then someone else who
planned and worked for it will take it from you. If you don’t
plan you will get swept away by the people who do. They
will fill the positions, make the money and get the fame
while you'll just be a spectator. planning is an essential
item in the success toolkit. Read this guide to learn
everything about planning and goal setting.
Lack of Self-confidence : If you don't have a high self-
confidence then most probably you will be too shy of
presenting your ideas and you may give up your dreams
as soon as someone tells you that they are not possible.
You may fear taking any risks and so ignore many
opportunities that could have made you successful. If you
want to increase your chances of being a successful
person, then you must build your self-confidence. You can
build it from scratch using the ultimate guide for building
self-confidence.
Thinking that you lack resources: In my book How i did it
i explained how i managed to make a website that
generates thousands of dollars/month in less than 2 years
with an initial investment that is less than 50 dollars!!
Don't fool yourself by thinking that you lack resources
because if you are serious about success you will do it
without having any resources. This website is one of the
examples of successful businesses that required no
resources at the start up.
Success related Fears: The types of fears that can affect
your ability to succeed are the fear of failure and the fear
of success. While they both seem to be complete
opposites still they can have the same effect on you which
is preventing you from trying and so leading you to failure.
If you want to deal with fear of success then check out
this article while if you want to deal with fear of failure
then check out this one
The Road to Success
If you have already been through the previous guides and
have prepared your toolkit then it's time to know how the
road to success looks like so that you don't find
unexpected surprises.
The road to success will probably be full of rejection, pain,
hard work, disappointment as well as many other
discouraging things but when you reach its end you will
feel really happy and victorious.
You will feel proud of yourself for overcoming all of these
obstacles and for reaching your goals in spite of the many
things that stood in your way. You will be tremendously
happy and satisfied and you will experience the feelings
described at the beginning of this article. In short, you will
receive the reward of being successful.
Source: 2knowmyself.com