PYE'S Reader: Secret To Having A Man Feel Like He Doesn't Want To Live Without You- Rori Raye

I received this mail from a colleague and she wanted me to share it with you. Therefore, I decided to publish it. Read here

The Secret To Having A Man Feel Like He Doesn't Want To Live Without You Pye, I can't remember a worse feeling than being lonely in the evening, and home, and trying to get myself to go out and DO something related to "dating" - or to keeping myself "busy." I used to get sick with colds and flu so often, and feel run-down and blue a lot of the time... And so I'd force myself to go do things to meet men (when I wasn't involved with a man), and to "pretend" I was hard-to-get (if I was with a man). I know now that feeling so sick all the time was mostly because I was fighting my own feelings and my own needs. I Was Settling For Crumbs, All The Time It always felt like I was chasing a man, even if I was just standing still. And, I was always disappointed and unhappy unless I was in SOME man's arms - and then bitterly miserable when it felt like he couldn't care less whether I was there or not. If You're Feeling Like An Afterthought To Him, It's Time To Do This If you're feeling like the last thing on a man's "plate" - like you're a comfortable old shoe and can't seem to get out of that trap and really, truly engage his heart, I can help. This happens to us when our attachment to a man gets stronger than our love for ourselves - and all it takes to get back your power with a man is to get back "into" yourself. And NOT in the ways we've been taught to do it. To learn my completely different way to draw in a man - the man you're with right now, or the many men you'll be drawing in like magic, take a look at myModern Siren online video program: Read More I was a busy, successful, cute, cheerful, smart, funny woman - and to meet me, you'd NEVER know I was suffering so much. I had so much to learn about men and about love, and there was no one to help me. Not even a model I could follow. So I know, if I was able to turn everything around, get through the rough parts feeling pretty good about myself, and experience the kind of great marriage I have now - you can do it, too, with just a little bit of my help. The key here for me was to do the parts of what I was already doing that were working, and stop doing the parts that weren't working. And to understand why they worked and didn't work, and to STICK with MYSELF no matter what happened. How I Started Attracting And Connecting With Good Men Before I could be the heartbeat of a man, I had to find my OWN heartbeat. I had to not just "live" from my own heartbeat, but DANCE to it. LOVE it. LISTEN to it. And the moment I committed myself to this love affair with ME, great men started showing up. When I lost this "loving feeling" for myself - as I did in the early years of my marriage - everything went downhill. And, when I regained it, and got "into" myself again... everything in my love life - including my marriage - absolutely became brilliant. When you make changes on your outside - in the words and body language you use - things start to change on your inside. And, when you feel different on your inside, things change on the outside. Everything always gets better! Really, it does. It's just that messy period in the middle, while things are changing and working themselves out that things feel a little unsteady. So, know that, if you're finding yourself somewhere in the middle - almost loving yourself but not quite DANCING to yourself yet - we just need to push you over the edge! And that's what Modern Siren is all about - I wanted to create a program so that you could just hit "play" and watch me guide you to falling in love with yourself AND expressing that in a way a man finds utterly irresistible. Check it out here: Watch a Sample Clip Tool: Be His Heartbeat Let's start with this Tool - Be His Heartbeat - and we'll start by being YOUR heartbeat! 1. Start with where you might be right now where you feel like you're giving your heart to a man who you're not quite sure deserves it. Imagine he's standing right in front of you, about 5 feet away... 2. Imagine that your heart is jumping out of your body and holding onto him. Now... 3. Put your hand on your heart. Let it jump around, but keep it, gently, inside your own body. Let it beat and thump, and let it WANT to go on over to the nearest man, but gently insist that it stay in your body and beat for YOU. 4. When you feel like you're hanging onto your heart... ...like it's going to stay inside your own body and beat for you, take the next step... 5. Open your heart to him. Okay, this may feel scary. It's supposed to. We're all so used to DOING stuff and GIVING love - we're not used to just keeping the love inside ourselves and just OPENING the door to our heart. Imagine the love in your heart that's beating for YOU - imagine it RADIATING out of your heart. Imagine it STAYING inside YOU, but radiating it's warmth out toward EVERYONE and EVERYTHING outside you. Now... 6. Feel the beat of your heart. Really feel it. Let the beat of it move through you and thrill you. Now... 7. Start moving. I want you to start swaying to the beat of your heart... while allowing it to stay open and radiating. Don't take the next steps until you feel comfortable doing this, and it feels like FUN! Just remember - hanging onto your heart, and keeping it inside your own body so it can beat for YOU is not the same as closing off your heart. Or keeping up a front or wall between you and a man in order to protect yourself. It's just the opposite. It's about taking down all the walls, all the fronts, all the pretending, unzippering your heart, and, literally hanging onto your heart by keeping it in your OWN BODY! Just keep imagining that your heart is in your own body, that it's open, and that everyone you meet is leaning toward you and radiating energy and love into your heart. 8. Now, while you're DANCING and moving to the beat of your heart, I want you to move forward a few steps, and then back a few steps. Feel how that feels. Keep imagining the man in front of you (the man you're involved with, or a man you imagine would be a good partner for you) - and move toward him as you dance, and then move away from him. Notice how you feel when you dance toward him. It doesn't feel "right" does it? It feels like chasing, and trying to "get" something. And what does dancing AWAY from him feel like? Does it feel powerful? Can you feel the power of what you've already accomplished - keeping your heart inside your body so it can beat for YOU, opening your heart, and yet controlling who gets to be near you by moving and dancing forwards and backwards? This is an amazing thing, actually. If you're not feeling good about a man, instead of closing down your heart - you can simply dance BACKWARDS! You can dance, with an open heart - AWAY from him. Experiment with this right now, and then try it out in the world. You'll feel so much relief and so much more power in yourself... 9. Now try moving and dancing side to side. See how much room there is to move? You don't have to move forward, toward a man - there are so many OTHER ways to dance! 10. Here's how to use this Tool when you're out in the world, in the presence of a man - talking to him in the drugstore, or sitting across from him at dinner, or in bed with him: If you don't like the energy that's coming at you - you don't have to put up a wall, just step backward or side-to-side. Put your hand on your heart. Feel how your heart is in your own body and under your own control. Let your heart sink into the warmth of your body and relax. When you feel your shoulders, your chest, your heart wanting to lean out, toward him, stop yourself. When you feel your hands and arms want to reach for him, stop yourself. When you feel your words wanting to ask him for something or reach out to him, stop yourself. Dance away from him, open your heart, open the palms of your hands outward to let in all the love he's giving to you (imagine he's giving to you even if you don't think he is) and imagine your heart beating strongly and calmly in your own body. Imagine the warmth from your heart going all through your body. Imagine your breath going down to your pelvis and opening everything up. Imagine your heart staying inside your body, floating, giving off warmth to YOU. Keeping your insides, and your shoulders, and your belly and pelvis warm. Keeping you warm. And once you feel warmth, altogether inside yourself - once you've truly become your own Heartbeat - you will AUTOMATICALLY draw in every man around you, and you will automatically be HIS heartbeat. It sounds so simple, and it is. Success Story: Laura Here's a success story: Laura practiced hanging on to her heart and became an instant magnet for her man: Dear Rori, About a week ago, I emailed you asking whether I 'have rocks in my head' for sticking it out in this turbulent situation with my boyfriend. Well, later that day, I followed the Rori Raye Mantra in your 5 Tools. Without yelling, I simply shared that I am understanding of his problems, but I am not comfortable with the hurtful feelings I get when he's upset, and that it feels like I am being treated as a whipping post when he gets mad at the outside world. I don't like the feeling and it makes me want to get away from what is causing the hurtful feelings. So I told him I will no longer keep repeating my mistakes of the past and allowing myself to be treated badly is one of them. I also told him in return that I will make every effort to be his loving woman and not his future ex-controlling girlfriend. I also set a couple more boundaries over the next couple days with myself and started acting on them. I work out of our home and would focus too much on his chores and responsibilities, neglecting my own. I turned that around and he's noticed already that I'm not as available physically, nor am I over functioning, or over thinking. I got busy and filled the time I was wasting and waiting for him. ****In one week, he has called me everyday to check in and tell me he loves me, he told me I have always been the love of his life and he's waited all of his life for this chance together (we were high school sweethearts for 6 years). Last night, he told me he couldn't imagine life without me, that I was beautiful and the woman of his dreams. WOW, I WAS SHOCKED (he's not a man of words)! Finally, he was the one doing all of the talking, the thinking, and the doing, He even did the dishes and vacuumed!! I have to giggle over that. Funny, I've always told my kids to treat themselves well, because other people will treat you the way you treat yourself, but I never practiced what I preached. Thank you so much, Laura If Laura can turn things around so fast - even though she's spent most of her life Over Functioning and reaching out to men - so can you! Feel Safe, Secure, And Adored My Reconnect Your Relationship audio program can help you the same way it helped Laura, because you'll learn how to talk to a man so he'll respect your needs and boundaries, and he'll feel CLOSER to you without you having to DO so much. So many of us think it's necessary to "manage" our household and pick up the slack when the man is preoccupied or forgets. We want to help him and we want to show him that we're capable and devoted. But in doing so, he ends up doing LESS, being less affectionate, and he can even start to resent us! It's crazy sounding, but true! This is how Reconnect can help - the program will take you through the steps to stop Over Functioning and simply get to a place where you're responding to your OWN needs, listening to your own heart, and bringing a man close in a natural, soft way. 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